Brain Damage
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IMDB rating: 6.50 Plot: A normal, average guy who lives in New York City becomes dependent on an evil, disembodied brain. The brain feeds the guy a narcotic substance in exchange for his unwilling assistance in obtaining the brains of innocent victims for sustenance. This turns into a tour of circa-1980s underground NYC clubs, backlots, and other seedy locations. One scene features the band Swimming Pool Cues playing the song “Corruption.” |
Actors: Hearst Rick,MacDonald Gordon,Barnes Theo,Gonzalez Joseph,Rhodes Bradlee,Bishop Michael,Roussimoff Ari M.,Van Hentenryck Kevin,Rubenstein Michael,Reichert John,Comedy,Horror,
Was I abused then USED?
I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this…hence that’s why I’m on here…but I need some advice about what I should do and what you think about my situation. So, here goes…
I was dating this guy…he had never been physically abusive to me before this happened but he dropped me down a flight of stairs, held a knife to my throat, and dragged me by my hair down the driveway. I don’t remember barely anything, but I know that it happened because my mom and sister were there and I was taken to the ER for my injuries and I had a concussion. Also, the knife was recovered by the police where my mom told them she put it.
Well, I didn’t press charges but the state picked them up. The charges were dropped at the preliminary examination because my ex persuaded me to lie and have my mom and sister lie to the prosc. atty. and judge (and his family spent almost 15k on lawyers). Of course the entire time he was telling me that he loved me and that we would be together when he got out. They held him in prison because he was on parole. We talked and wrote letters the entire time and I visited him a few times too. I met with his attorney for his parole because she requested a copy of my medical records and she told me that he had been transferred to a residential treatment center and that he would be there for 4-6 months and for me to not contact him because his parole had placed a no contact order on us (including my mom and sister as well). Well, I contacted the facility and he is not there. And OTIS, the offender tracking information system, lists his location as the parole office. I spoke with his family and after much prying and me telling them that I knew that he was out, they finally said that he was in Detroit and that he is not coming back. And I found out that there is no "no contact order".
I feel so used and betrayed it is NOT funny. I actually lost a lot from this entire experience. I lost my entire last semester in school which has ruined my chances of getting into the school I’ve been working to get into for the past 3 years. I finally told my therapist the truth about what happened after I knew that he was released and my therapist wants me to have an MRI now because he said that I have symptoms of brain damage that would be a result of my ex from the night that he abused me. I don’t know what to do now. I am afraid of what will happen to me and my family if I go back to the prosc. atty. and tell the truth. I think I can still press charges because his case wasn’t exactly dismissed. The term used was "order of nolle prosequi entere". And the night that all the stuff happened his brother threatened to kill me and my entire family if his brother went back to prison.
I know this is some heavy stuff and I don’t want to hear any "you shouldn’t have fell for it" kind of stuff. I really need some support and advice.
-Thanks.
your boyfrend sucks its a gud idea 2 dump that ruthless pig anyways the answer to your question is - yes
ntra | Feb 05, 2010
You’re responsibility now is to make sure he doesn’t do that to anybody else.
If I were you, I would reach down deep inside and do what Sarah Connor from "The Terminator" movies would do.
File charges against him for assault, and at the same time take some self-defense classes, and also make yourself realize that what you are describing is not "love," it’s twisted obsession. Maybe even get a gun and learn how to use it, but whatever you do, this guy needs to go down for his crimes legally, but barring that…
The best "defense" sometimes is a very determined and strong "offense…"
Pocket Protecktor | Feb 05, 2010
I think the worst thing you lost from this experience was hope.
The sense of loss that accompanies an abusive relationship - the loss of the hope that the relationship could turn out to be a truly happy and long-term thing, is often the most devastating factor.
If you wished to take steps (and i think you should before this happens to someone else), your primary concern should be informing the police that you and your family have been threatened.
Perhaps this may give you back some part of the life that you oh-so-mercifully sacrificed.
You are a strong individual, but your strength is not the kind of strength that requires physical intimidation and abuse to function.
Skully | Feb 05, 2010
Hello lady,
First of all that is really intense. Even more so than what happened to me last year. I see where you are coming from IN A WAY because I was in a similar situation in 2009. January ‘09 I got into an argument with my live in girlfriend over something dumb i dont remember. I walked toward her to be able to make eye contact with her while we were arguing and raised my hand to scratch my head. She thought I was going to hit her and she punched me square under my eye around the cheek bone. The argument got worse from there. I stepped away from her and walked outside to light a cigarette and her step father was already sitting outside my home. I walked back inside and asked "w t f" is he doing here? She was on the phone with her mother who then sent one of her close friends to my home. Her friend was the type to instigate and escalate everything. When her friend got there she said that if I didn’t leave the home she was calling the police. I told her that she’s lost her mind because it was my apartment. After about twenty minutes I decide to leave just to get some peace. I went to a nearby bridge and sat by the water to think about what happened. Not even 10 minutes after I got there the police were calling me wanting to speak with me. I agreed and said to meet at my parents home. When I got there the cops were waiting for me and asked for my side of the story. I could tell it was going in one ear and out of the other. The instant I finished talking, he pulled out his handcuffs and told me I was under arrest. I was arrested for misdemeanor battery which was increased to a felony battery when I saw the judge. My bond was set at $50,000 and I was FORCED to move out of my home and give her complete control of the apartment. Before I could be released from jail they fitted me with a gps monitor that also costs $105 a week. With the gps monitor I couldn’t drive the regular way to work because I couldn’t come within 5 miles of her. I had to drive 50 miles out of my way to work, and 50 miles back. An hour there and an hour back every single day for four horrible months. I never even hit her let alone raised a finger and she knew it. When she tried to drop the charges the state picked them up any ways. All in all I spent about 15,000 last year. I didn’t get off probation until late October. I’m sorry if I’m running on or bleeding/venting but I’ve never let this out to many people. Also I had to take 6 months of Anger management/domestic violence classes. When she was the one with anger problems. I was being verbally abused throughout our relationship. But look where I landed because I was the male.
Anyways back to your issue. Yes he used you to get himself out of trouble. And if you feel threatened that his brother or himself could do harm to your family or yourself you need to report it. Even if he isn’t out of trouble yet. Protect yourself always. I could type much much more but I don’t want to bore you. I wish you luck and hope your family is safe. My best advise to you is do what feels right.
- Jc
greg | Feb 05, 2010